Saturday, June 15, 2013
RaeAnne is doing her best to try to make this weekend more bearable for me, but nothing changes the fact that it is just a very sad weekend. She is making some of my favorite foods for me, and she has some gifts for me tomorrow, and those are nice things and very much appreciated. But they would be so, so, so much nicer if we had Samuel here with us.
Below is an image that RaeAnne made for me for Father's Day. She did a great job and I love it! Thank you, honey!
She had a friend of hers in California create the really nice pictures you see below. She did a great job with the pictures! That's the Pacific Ocean in the background. I imagine that maybe Samuel has beaches like that in heaven. Click on any of the pictures to go to the website for her friend's organization that makes keepsake photography for babies and children who have died.
RaeAnne also asked another friend of hers to make the really nice graphic shown below. She did a great job!
Also, while I was writing this, a package arrived for me with a keychain ring with "DADDY OF AN ANGEL" imprinted on a square piece of metal and "SAMUEL EVAN" and a pair of tiny footprints imprinted on a round piece of metal. There was another keychain ring for RaeAnne, of course with the word mommy instead of daddy. Each one also had Samuel's birthstone attached to the ring. The package included an anonymous letter from someone who has been following Samuel's story on RaeAnne's blog and just wanted to do something nice for us. The letter was very nice, it was supportive and caring and encouraging, and it was simply signed, "Yours in Christ, A Neighbor Who Cares". It's really nice to know that there are people out there thinking of us, and that there are some who actually do understand. To whoever sent that package, THANK YOU! That was very nice of you and it is very much appreciated.
Life will never be the same now that Samuel is gone. There will always be a piece of my heart missing. On Father's Day it is especially noticeable. I want so much to be able to celebrate Father's Day like the other fathers do, with their happy families and healthy children. I sometimes wonder how things might be different if we had other children that lived. But I always remember that even though I can't hold Samuel in my arms, I am still a father.
Happy Father's Day to all the fathers out there. And please remember to acknowledge those fathers who have lost a child too soon.
I love you, Samuel, and I can't wait to see you again in heaven someday!
Sunday, April 14, 2013
Saturday, February 2, 2013
I've been missing Samuel a lot lately. I think of all the memories I have missed out on. If he were with us, he would probably be learning to walk by now. I think of all the places we could have taken him. All the days spent playing with him, showing him things, reading to him. He would have that sense of wonder and curiosity about things that babies have. I imagine him wanting to know about many things around him. He wouldn't have the words to say what he meant yet, but we would learn to understand him.
I imagine he would follow me around and want to know what I'm doing. He would sit on my lap and we would watch football together. In the summer I would take him to a Twins game. But none of that will be happening.
I miss you so much Samuel. I don't know how I've made it through without you. I want to hold you so bad it hurts. But all I have is this empty spot in my life where you should be. I love you Samuel, and I can't wait to see you again someday.
Monday, January 14, 2013
Losing Samuel is not something I will or can ever "move on" from. It doesn't work that way. With time and with God's help the wound will heal and the pain will lessen, but the scar remains as a reminder of who and what I have lost. It is something I have to learn to live with.
I'm working on a wood sign that has a quote from Thomas Moore. "Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal." Those words really hit home when I first read them because I know God is helping me heal. And he will complete that healing when I am reunited with Samuel in Heaven someday.
For now I am left to wonder what it would be like to have a 9 month old boy crawling around the house, playing, getting into things, laughing, crying, chasing the cats, and just making a mess. For now I am left with nothing but memories and sadness. I guess I'll just have to wait a really long time.
I miss you and I love you Samuel. I know I will see you again someday, but not soon enough.